It’s Her Right

Tove and I went to the women’s protest at the state capitol here in Oklahoma City again today. If Roe vs. Wade gets overturned we have decided as a family to make a plan to leave this country.

Hopefully by the time Tove is sexually active/menstruating I will have a resume that allows for me to seek employment abroad.

There were some great signs and speeches made this AM, I’m just ashamed I birthed a daughter here in Oklahoma of all places. 🙃

“White, religious, cis, men do not represent me.”

“There is something greater than gods will and that is my will.”

Oklahoma State Capitol Abortion Ban Protest

Today, for my first Mother’s Day with Tove being outside of my womb, we went to an abortion ban protest at the state capitol.

I can’t look into Tove’s eyes and tell her that she doesn’t have the same rights as a boy and that she doesn’t matter, because she does.

There were about 50-60 people at the protest. It was heartwarming hearing the cars honk on the underpass as we cheered them on with our signs.

I loved what one woman had wrote, “a quality man does not fear equality.”

I’m so proud for Tove to have a father that understands she should have bodily autonomy, and that it’s her right as a woman to make whatever medical decisions are necessary to her.

It’s terrifying thinking about how women might be punished under these new laws and it’s so unjust I couldn’t just be a keyboard warrior anymore.

#itsnotrighttimetofight #bansoffourbodies

Bricktown Canal

Ben and I took Tove to Bricktown yesterday afternoon and took a stroll around the canal.

A bit windy like always but the spring weather was quite nice!

We stopped at Heyday for a refresher and thought we lost Tove’s pacifier for a good second. ALAS it was under her stroller and we were all good.

The Future is Female

Yet here we are living in a man’s world. I cried ugly tears while getting ready and watching the news this morning. Oklahoma passed a total abortion ban.

Was I planning on getting an abortion? No. Should I have that right? 100% yes.

I can no longer raise my daughter in this state because I will not deny her those BASIC rights. Nor will I ever subject her to having to carry the burden if she were to be raped. Fucking ludicrous.

Religion has no place in politics- especially not in the 20th century.

That being said, women in Saudi Arabia actually have more rights than in Texas, Oklahoma and Kentucky.

Abortion in Saudi Arabia is legal; In cases of risk to a woman’s life, fetal impairment, or to protect her physical and mental health. Pregnancy arising from incest or rape also qualify for a legal abortion under the mental health exemption. Oh AND she has four months to get it in these cases.

So we’re actively working on a 5-10 year plan that hopefully gets us out of this state before it’s too late… ✌🏼

Frida Southwest

Last month Ito came to visit OKC and see the house for the first time. I dragged him out to brunch with OKC’s finest!

Michael, Julianne, Ito, me, Sabah & Tove all met at Frida Southwest in the Paseo Arts District and let me tell you about their brunch…

Their mimosas were crisp and to my liking. They also had some fun other options on their brunch libations menu. Julianne and Michael were less basic than Ito and I 😋.

We started with some burrata/prosciutto with sourdough bread. Their house made biscuits were also delish.

I stuck with a simple caprese salad and their presentations just blew me away. I will say I could’ve done with a bit less oil but it was a nice touch to soften up the fried cheese.

Michael is ultimate daddy. that’s all.

To finish up we ordered a giant cinnamon bun for the table. I mean giant! Sabah’s hand for scale ^^

I’ve been waiting and wanting to try Frida Southwest for a while now and wow I should’ve gone sooner. Honestly one of the top 2 meals I’ve had in OKC.

Eight Months

What a difference Tove has already made in this world. So loved from many areas of the 🌎 globe.

We’ve been blessed to have her as healthy and happy as she’s been these first 8 months.

This last month, Tove’s appetite has definitely grown. She’s still breastfeeding 3 times a day but we’ve also added in 2 meals and some snacks throughout the day. So far anything puréed has been a hit, but she’s also been enjoying some baby led weaning. We’ve started with some watermelon, tortillas, avocado.. you name it, Tove eats it!

She’s still stationary but honestly, I’m grateful for any extra time we get. I am not ready to be chasing her throughout the house just yet.

Tove LOVES dogs, like a lot. She screams with happiness at both my parents dog, Ziggy and anytime she can get Tex’s attention at home. She’s also fond of other dogs on our walks 🐾

We’ve recently hit a fussy phase, or leap if you’re reading the wonder weeks. Lots of patience is needed from us as parents and it’s a work in progress. Luckily she’s still sleeping well throughout the night in her crib so we’re able to be sane throughout her tantrums.

I can’t believe we’re just a few months out from her first birthday… like I said, life changing.

Mamma älskar dig så mycket, baby girl 💕

Trying To Keep Up

I really wanted to make this blog a full scale documentary of Tove’s first year with us but honestly I’ve enjoyed being with her too much to set aside time to blog.

I have a sneaking suspicion I will wish I did more during this time the older she gets, but it’s hard to keep up with it all.

I started to feel overwhelmed with a lot, mostly social media.. so I deactivated my fb and Instagram for a while. It’s been refreshing.

I’m hoping I remember to blog about the fun we’ve had recently but I may just have to journal it into my mom’s one line a day and document via Polaroids instead. I love the memories we’ve made this far…

First Christmas

Meant to post this on December 31st… time flies when you’re getting settled into new routines.

The week of Christmas we moved into our house here in Oklahoma. My dad took time off work to come help move all the furniture, then help unpack everything and clean leading up to Christmas.

Traditionally we celebrate Christmas on the afternoon/evening of the 24th but due to the move my mother arrived that afternoon and we met my brother and his girlfriend Helena out for dinner. Then on the 25th, like most Americans, we celebrated Christmas with our traditional family meal. Felt a bit different but I was so happy my family made the trip up to celebrate with us.

The first Christmas of many more to come for Tove. It’s going to be so much fun 🎄🤶🏼

Ending 2021

Not everyone has the same sentiments regarding 2021 as I do. It has been the greatest year of my life thus far. I couldn’t feel more empowered going into 2022- ready to continue on this path of success for me and my family.

Lots of changes ending this year and I’m really excited to see where next year takes us! Tove is 2 days away from 5 months old and we’ve just moved into our first home (thanks to the help of my parents- slaving away and cleaning over the last week!). I’ll be missing my old job dearly but keeping faith in my abilities going forward into new opportunities in 2022.

Cheers 🥂