Mini Me

I’ve been trying to teach Tove how to wear sunglasses and yesterday I finally got her to wear them for slightly longer than 15 seconds.

Tove wore her sunglasses just long enough for Ben to snap a pic of us! She threw them on the ground the second we started walking though🤪

It’s Her Right

Tove and I went to the women’s protest at the state capitol here in Oklahoma City again today. If Roe vs. Wade gets overturned we have decided as a family to make a plan to leave this country.

Hopefully by the time Tove is sexually active/menstruating I will have a resume that allows for me to seek employment abroad.

There were some great signs and speeches made this AM, I’m just ashamed I birthed a daughter here in Oklahoma of all places. 🙃

“White, religious, cis, men do not represent me.”

“There is something greater than gods will and that is my will.”

Oklahoma State Capitol Abortion Ban Protest

Today, for my first Mother’s Day with Tove being outside of my womb, we went to an abortion ban protest at the state capitol.

I can’t look into Tove’s eyes and tell her that she doesn’t have the same rights as a boy and that she doesn’t matter, because she does.

There were about 50-60 people at the protest. It was heartwarming hearing the cars honk on the underpass as we cheered them on with our signs.

I loved what one woman had wrote, “a quality man does not fear equality.”

I’m so proud for Tove to have a father that understands she should have bodily autonomy, and that it’s her right as a woman to make whatever medical decisions are necessary to her.

It’s terrifying thinking about how women might be punished under these new laws and it’s so unjust I couldn’t just be a keyboard warrior anymore.

#itsnotrighttimetofight #bansoffourbodies

9 Months

This post is a day late but Tove was extra fussy and stayed up an hour past her bedtime last night. I’m pretty sure I start every monthly post off the same way, “man it’s a wild ride..” but for real watching a little human who grew inside of you find her way in the world is the biggest trip.

Tove is able to sit on her own but cannot sit up from lying down yet. She’s begun army crawling around and to whichever nearby object she can find. She enjoys crawling to Tex and stealing his 🧸 toys- and he’s sweet enough to let her.

We’re in the shrieking phase- I do not love it, nor does Ben. Tove is finding her voice but currently it involves screaming at the top of her lungs at almost everything. It’s an ear piercing shrill sound but it’s not because she’s upset. Cute and funny when it’s at lower registers but when she gets you in the ear it’s definitely less cute.

Tove has started mumbling and babbling so the race is on to see what her first words will be. Tex, pappa, or hat are my guesses 🤪

Food wise, Tove is always hungry it seems! She loves purées and has been enjoying cut up fruit recently. Much like mom, Tove also enjoys bread and pasta!

She outgrew her first sleep sack and she’s pretty close to being done with her 9 month old pjs as well. Tove’s got them long legs like her pappa.

Bricktown Canal

Ben and I took Tove to Bricktown yesterday afternoon and took a stroll around the canal.

A bit windy like always but the spring weather was quite nice!

We stopped at Heyday for a refresher and thought we lost Tove’s pacifier for a good second. ALAS it was under her stroller and we were all good.

Work From Anywhere

Decided to meet Michael at the Dell campus in OKC today to work “in person” since we’ve got the option to do so.

Was a bit of a ghost town but good to get out of the house nonetheless.

I’ll be back up there again on Tuesday next week to meet some of my classmates in person for the first time …after having been on zoom together for 8 hours a day the last THREE months!

This virtual world really is becoming reality.

The Future is Female

Yet here we are living in a man’s world. I cried ugly tears while getting ready and watching the news this morning. Oklahoma passed a total abortion ban.

Was I planning on getting an abortion? No. Should I have that right? 100% yes.

I can no longer raise my daughter in this state because I will not deny her those BASIC rights. Nor will I ever subject her to having to carry the burden if she were to be raped. Fucking ludicrous.

Religion has no place in politics- especially not in the 20th century.

That being said, women in Saudi Arabia actually have more rights than in Texas, Oklahoma and Kentucky.

Abortion in Saudi Arabia is legal; In cases of risk to a woman’s life, fetal impairment, or to protect her physical and mental health. Pregnancy arising from incest or rape also qualify for a legal abortion under the mental health exemption. Oh AND she has four months to get it in these cases.

So we’re actively working on a 5-10 year plan that hopefully gets us out of this state before it’s too late… ✌🏼

Frida Southwest

Last month Ito came to visit OKC and see the house for the first time. I dragged him out to brunch with OKC’s finest!

Michael, Julianne, Ito, me, Sabah & Tove all met at Frida Southwest in the Paseo Arts District and let me tell you about their brunch…

Their mimosas were crisp and to my liking. They also had some fun other options on their brunch libations menu. Julianne and Michael were less basic than Ito and I 😋.

We started with some burrata/prosciutto with sourdough bread. Their house made biscuits were also delish.

I stuck with a simple caprese salad and their presentations just blew me away. I will say I could’ve done with a bit less oil but it was a nice touch to soften up the fried cheese.

Michael is ultimate daddy. that’s all.

To finish up we ordered a giant cinnamon bun for the table. I mean giant! Sabah’s hand for scale ^^

I’ve been waiting and wanting to try Frida Southwest for a while now and wow I should’ve gone sooner. Honestly one of the top 2 meals I’ve had in OKC.