The closer we get to our due date the more and more prepared I feel we are at home. Changing table has arrived from IKEA and we got a changing pad recently from Keekaroo as well. Plus after the baby shower so many of the items on our registry got purchased that the only thing left for me to do is mentally prepare for an unmedicated birth. I told Ben not to let me chicken out when the time comes and ask to go to a hospital just cause I want pain meds.
When we took our birthing class the instructor recommended we put together a few items to bring with us to the birthing center (which could also be brought to a stale hospital environment in case of an emergency transfer) so I decided to start working on an inspiration board today. I found some phrases on Pinterest but also drew from my own personal mantras and created some super simple affirmation cards on Canva.
If you want to see all 12 of them you can do so here. I’m no graphic designer but they are simple so you can use them as a template if you click the pen in the bottom left hand corner and change the phrases to fit your own birthing experience!
My boss asked during one of our meetings if I had planned on having a baby shower. I told her no, in Sweden it is not customary, and I’d never even attended one before. So Megan took it upon herself to encourage me to start my baby registry and host a shower for us! I’m so thankful she was willing to plan and host our baby shower with the help of some of my radest colleagues.
Not only were the cookies the CUTEST things ever, I loved the color and Tove’s name on them, but they were also delicious. I got to take home 4 of them and I ate them within 2 days… oops, I would do it again. Megan had 3 different games prepared for us as well, the first was a plastic baby you had to hold in your hand, not pocket, and whoever had the most at the end of the shower won.
The second game was to guess what baby item was in the paper bag. Not to brag but I won cause I got all the items correct- MOM TO BE POINTS! The third was different kinds of chocolate bars melted in diapers and we had to guess what type it was. I did poorly with guessing, needed my chocoholic dad to be there I guess.
After the games the ‘shower’ began and Ben and I got to open presents from all our friends who came. You can see Ben proudly looking and counting his babies at the start of opening presents.
So appreciative of all the useful gifts we received, we felt so loved during opening them. I will say Brit had the Spice Girls onesie custom made for me and Ben already knew about it but actually managed to keep it a secret for MONTHS.
My sweet colleagues had also helped blow up balloons at work and then set up the backdrop for photos! I handed the camera to Sabah and got photos with all our attendees 💕 sweet sweet memories.
Megan, the hostess with the mostest! Not only is she a mom of four kids, but she also runs two businesses. #GirlPower
Me and Michael! He was actually one of the interviewers when I applied for my current position. Now 1.5 years later, I’m his boss 😛 but only technically because I don’t believe he would let anyone be boss over him truly.
Sabah and I, another beloved colleague. Not only is she an immigrant like meeeee but she’s just a badass in the cannabis community as well. Love having her in my corner for support. Plus she’s pretty damn good at buying presents that fit me to a T!
Dream team from work… or as our group text says, Hoe$
Sierra, my assistant manager at work, and I. She’s been a favorite of mine for a while now. Not only is she such a pleasure to work with but I just adore the crap out of her as well. Like I would love to just go on a hike with our pups and drink margs after one of these days! I’m excited for her to get to run the show while I’m away on maternity leave.
Ben, Sierra, I, and Quez
Hannah and her son Avery.
Mady and I
Sweet Kyla. Another mom to help field my millions of questions!
Ben, me, Brit & Tobin. Our first OKC friend couple!
Forever my best friend! Was happy Ito was willing to drive up from Dallas to spend the night before with me and also attend the shower. Plus now my colleagues know I didn’t just make up having a best friend from Canada 😅
The only blood relative we had at the shower was my brother, Rob. Him and his girlfriend, Helena, drove up from Dallas; I felt so bad that they got caught in traffic coming up, making it a 4 hour drive for ~1 hr of the baby shower only to then drive back down. I really wanted Rob to come in person though because Ben and I met through him. My brother invited Ben to celebrate July 4th with Ito and I and here we are 5 years later about to have a baby!! We also asked my brother after the baby shower to be the god father, and he happily said yes 🥰
Happy parents to be.. the second one is when Ben realized our daughter’s due date was a month away.. lol jk JOKESSSSssss
So happy and grateful for those who decided to come celebrate with us! Had a great time and wouldn’t have wanted it any other way.
I wanted to blog/journal throughout this pregnancy but honestly haven’t had the extra energy to put into it. So many unwritten blog posts and topics to cover, I wish I was just pregnant full-time and didn’t have to work so I would’ve been able to do more. Here’s a photo journal instead from the second and beginning of the third trimester. A lot of these are just mirror pictures but I still love seeing the progress and changes over time ☺️
I guess I finally felt like I was ‘showing’ at this point. Comical looking back on it now, she was still tiny in there.
I got approved to wear a different uniform at work. Tights being the main perk! Also had to pick up some larger t-shirts and sweaters from work.. living leaf and loving life in this picture.
At this point I was transitioning into wearing maternity clothes exclusively. Note the same outfits in rotation in the following pictures 😅. Since I spend the majority of my time at work in uniform, or at home in some state of undress I didn’t feel like it was necessary to purchase a bunch of maternity clothes/outfits.
Dad (Ben) and I took Tex to a park in Norman and got some exercise on a day off. First time I started feeling a bit short of breath and a bit ‘weaker’ during our walks.
Found an old skirt from Monki that worked with my growing belly as well. Finally felt a bit cute!
Felt like I was properly starting to show at this point!
Ben and I goofing around and getting excited to meet Tove.
Still been able to rock the heels throughout this pregnancy! Ask me again in a few weeks, answer might change.
At work selfie, just cause I felt like the pregnancy glow people always talk about finally caught up to me! My skin cleared up and I think my hormones started to balance out after a full year of ups and downs. I do feel like I look older in this photo though.. already aged and she hasn’t even been born yet 😅
Out on the golf course with Ben on a lovely spring day. Had to document that I was carrying precious life!
At the beginning of April you couldn’t quite tell I was pregnant straight from the front or the back, but once I turned from the side it was starting to be like SURPRISE.
Tex has been a momma’s boy throughout this pregnancy, very needy of attention.
Beginning of May we got a visit from Ben’s parents. Decided to dress up for Mother’s Day even though it felt a bit like cheating celebrating it before we even had a child born into the world. I will say I have a new found appreciation for my own mother this year.
All back ensemble before meeting with our midwife and doula.
Ben outside the Birth Center where we have our clinic meetings with our midwife and her assistant.
Some presents from our registry started to arrive and I was WAY TO EXCITED to not get everything out of the box and set up immediately. Really in love with how functional the travel set we got from Maxi-Cosi is.
Since we haven’t moved into a house yet and will (hopefully) only be at the townhouse with our newborn for a few months into the fall/winter we decided to wait on buying a crib and decorating a nursery. Bassinet for the bedside seems like it’s going to work great for us.
Ben and I joke about our daughter getting his ASSets instead of the ‘plat arsle’ that runs on my side of the family.
Wanted to set up the baby monitor the second it arrived I was so excited. I always am with new technology but the Nanit comes with some awesome features so Ben told me to wait until she was born, that way we didn’t miss out on a few months of free perks. Damn my impatience.. but I got it back in the box without much fuss.
My Pappa was generous enough to order us a second Maxi-Cosi car base, that way we can drive both cars without the hassle of having to reinstall the car seat every time. We still haven’t gone to the fire station to get them installed properly, but it’s on the June to-do list.
This is one of my favorite photos from the pregnancy so far. Not sure why but it reminds me of photos from when I was a child at our summer house in Sweden. Maybe it’s the half nakedness outside or the warm colors. Either way this is very typical of me.. plus Tex is always nearby.
Another selfie because damnit I want to remember life before sleep deprivation and no time for make-up!
At the end of May, I felt like I really started picking up speed in terms of belly growth!
A less than flattering photo of me outside the birth center. Not sure if it was the weather that day or the shadows, but them under eye bags would not quit!
Learning to adapt to pregnancy life includes always having to lay on my side to be comfortable. Preferably with a pillow in between my legs as well. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve woken up on my back in bed and forced myself to fall back asleep on my side. CANNOT WAIT to be able to lay down on my stomach again either.
Tex has been the biggest cuddle/snuggle bug throughout the last couple of months. I feel like the bigger my belly has gotten the more gentle he is around me and with me. He also has to have his face touching my belly if we are laying down together on the couch. He’s going to be very protective of baby girl when she arrives, I can already feel it.
My motto for this unmedicated birth and pregnancy has been “She believed she could, so she did.” I often wear the bracelet Ben’s mom got me a few years ago as a reminder on the daily.
More Tex + Tove bonding on the couch
Ben and I got back from Costco after buying some diapers and baby wipes and looked at each other, “It’s getting so real!”
I had my prenatal visit with a lactation consultant at Thrive Mama Collective. Was a very informative initial meeting and I am very happy with the level of care I’ve received since finding a network of midwives who have recommendations for nearly every aspect of my pregnancy. Shout out to Jessica Cheatwood for the time, knowledge, tips/tricks, and for guiding me through how to work my breast pump!
Hopefully there will be another photo dump from the last part of the third trimester as well.
I cannot get over how creative and unique these children’s books are! I was casually scrolling through instagram when I came across The Little Homie and decided to check out more of their books on their website. I immediately wanted to purchase all of them. Thinking about adding one or two to our registry… or maybe I just treat ourselves to reading from the four book pack!
I liked Who Run The World? mostly cause GIRL POWER (of course I want my daughter to be a fearless female) plus my curiosity is wondering who all is in this ABC book. Also how fun of a spin on the traditional ABC book isn’t this?
I immediately thought of my Pappa when I saw the ABC⚡️DC version of the traditional ABC book. He’s a fan of ACDC and rock music but then when I was looking at the page views Tina Turner popped up; Dad’s favorite fearless female singer. So now I feel like I have to have this book for him to read to his first grandchild. 🤗
1 2 3 with the Notorious B.I.G. is a BRILLIANT take on numbers. I could totally see Ben reading this to our daughter in between rapping his favorite songs to her 😂 . As a matter of fact I feel like this book would make me start replacing lullabies with other nighttime tunes. She’s already been listening to hella different genres in the womb through me. Ben didn’t seem too impressed when I told him we’d listened to Young Jeezy Thug Motivation, Lil Wayne The Carter III, and Kanye West Graduation albums in the car to and from work recently.
Honestly I think I would want the entire collection of the Raised On Hip-Hop series. It would be too hard for me to pick just one out of the three they have. The pages above are en excerpt from Vol. 1. I’m starting to think I want these books for myself, and not for my child… oop.
If you’re expecting or attending a baby shower soon, I feel like these are GREAT gifts to give or buy for yourself. I mean if I’m enjoying the book I have to read over and over again to my child then maybe it won’t feel like a chore.
At first I didn’t want to do a baby registry at all. Mostly because it feels SO WEIRD to me to be like “hey I need these expensive things, now purchase them for me. K thx!” However when I needed to put together a list of items to buy before she gets here it became pretty evident to me that a baby registry was a two birds one stone kinda thing. I get to keep track of what all is left, AND those who want to celebrate this beautiful new life with us also get to join in on the giving!
I decided to use Babylist because it let me add items from all over the web, instead of just picking from a set list of items some registries sell. Babylist also gives you options for adding cash funds or favors! We chose to go with the parental leave fund, since I will be taking 2 months off from work, but will be unpaid. There’s also a diaper fund option which is legit. There were great options such as a meal train, offers to do chores, and some other ones buuuuuut since we’re in Oklahoma and don’t have many people around up here I didn’t think those were feasible.
Feel free to take a peek. I’m sure there’s a lot of things that seem like they are missing, but we aren’t doing a nursery until we’ve moved later this summer/fall so decor and whatnot is on our back burners. I STRUGGLED with choosing the travel set, mostly because of car seat safety but also the colors of the babybjörn and the changing pad.. probably over thinking it.
What a sense of relief this week has brought us! Not only did we decide on a midwife, but we also chose where we are going to birth our baby girl this summer.
I had my consultation with Brandy Harris from Willow Birth Services at the OKC Birth Center and fell in love instantly. She was open and honest and INFORMATIVE, not just directive. The birth center itself is brand spanking new this year; had their first birth this past week as well 🥰. The interior reminded me of homes in Sweden and that right there is what sold me. If my daughter isn’t going to be born in Sweden then I might as well make it DAMN CLOSE in esthetics. Plus I believe the space in which you birth should be equally as intimate at the space in which you conceived.
After struggling through appointments with FOUR different doctors, we settled on a natural birth. I hate hospitals and the business of being born in the states is overwhelming as a first time mom. I felt like a number, rather than a patient; I wasn’t about to pass that onto my child.
I am still vastly unprepared and uneducated on child birth, which is why we chose to hire some amazing women to help us. We will be working with a midwife, her assistant, as well as a doula. Ben, being a Magic The Gathering player, named our birthing team after a card and I’m here for it 😛 . I think I may have forgone having a doula if my mother was going to be present at the birth, or if this wasn’t our first rodeo, but ask me again after and I might have a different answer.
I will be having an unmedicated birth, which frankly still scares the daylights out of me but I believe mindset is everything. My body was made for this, I am a woman and am meant to bring new life into this world. If I mentally prepare then my body will know how to do the rest. Which is also the precise reason I chose the women I did to work with during our birth. They come with experience, knowledge, and advice that the internet can’t give me. I am also super thrilled to have Ben be an integral part of our birth, rather than an anxious dad in the corner of a hospital room.
For the first time during this pregnancy I can honestly say that I am excited to have birth! Maybe not so excited about all aspects but I feel empowered with the team we’ve chosen. 🤗
Holy crap- how did we get this far? I am still trying to wrap my head around being pregnant and all of the experiences yet to come and you’re telling me I’m in month FIVE?! Only four months left to go. I can only imagine how new mothers feel about time, when I’m already wanting to slow this pregnancy down. I used to tell Tex every day when he was a puppy “stop growing!” and I have a feeling I’ll be saying the same to baby girl when she starts developing before my eyes 😍.
We got some good news this week! I’ve been struggling with finding a doctor and a place I want to birth our daughter, and just recently was informed by OU Medicine that they were unable to reach a contract with Blue Cross Blue Shield, my insurance provider, so our birth with them would’ve ended up being an out of pocket expense (ie. hella expensive). I wasn’t a huge fan on their family medical center to begin with AND to top it all off they’ve had me see three different doctors in the last three months. I honestly felt like I was just another chore to them being passed along. Not the vibe you want when you’re bringing a new life into the world. I won’t go into all the negative details but I will be cancelling my upcoming appointments with them because I got accepted as a new patient with a doctor in Norman. Hopefully the initial visit goes well, as I reaaaaally want some stability before it’s due date.
Tex (🐾) has always shown an interest in my abdomen when I’ve been pregnant. He did it during our last pregnancy before I miscarried, and so when he did it back in December again I looked at Ben and said “We do buy a pregnancy test?”.. even though we both knew 🥰.
Current favorite part of pregnancy: Feeling her movements more strongly now, as opposed to “I think that might’ve been?” movement. Current loathed part of pregnancy: Mood swings. All the damn time, and they’re very intense. Plus I can’t sleep well at night.
I honestly had no clue it even existed until I found myself angry at the entire world, slamming doors, throwing dishes into the dishwasher and wanting to scream bloody murder for no apparent reason. Most days it is manageable and then there are nights like last night when I get home from work and have to clean up around the house, put the dishes up, and cook myself dinner at 9pm while Ben is fast asleep and it bubbles up inside of me like the nightmare that I know is waiting to happen.
I’m really hoping that the hormones will settle down after birth, because if this is a long term thing then Ben might want to consider living separately LOL.
Has anyone else experienced pregnancy rage? What did you do to combat it in the moment?
Breathing exercises are not enough for me and honestly sometimes on the road I feel like I should pull over and calm myself down because I can’t see straight enough to drive with all the other idiots on the road in OK. I thought Texas drivers were bad, but they’re something else up here. It was a trigger before I got pregnant and now it’s almost every time I get in the car. Which obviously isn’t safe for me or baby girl.
When I’m not experiencing rage everything else seems manageable, but it always comes out of the blue, VERY unexpected. I’ve never really had anger issues so it’s an entirely new emotion for me to be dealing with on a regular basis.
I’m going to start implementing a bit more meditation, as well as trying some prenatal yoga and getting proper “me time” before the baby arrives.
I caved and purchased some maternity clothes online today from Shein. Never bought anything from them before, and although I’m not an advocate for fast fashion, it felt very fitting to purchase some cheaper items I’ll only be wearing for the next couple of months. Ya girl ain’t made of money.
As I’ve started growing quite quickly now, I realized that summer is fast approaching as well. If I don’t drown in my own sweat hopefully these outfits will help keep me cool… and look cool 😛 (side note: are mom jokes a thing? I feel like that was a mom joke.)
Super excited about the color of this shirt. I also have a sneaking suspicion that I may still be in love with wearing it well after my pregnancy. It also comes in several other colors.
This came as a set and I’m really hoping it’s as comfortable and cute as it looks. The bottoms are also adjustable so they can keep up with little one’s demand regarding space in my belly. I may be living in this get up come June.
I showed this dress to Ben and he started laughing. I asked what was wrong with the dress and he goes “what in the heck is a ruffle cuff?!” I think he thought the name was more entertaining than the thought of me looking cute in the dress. Boys and their priorities 😉
I wasn’t entirely sure about this one after I had placed the order. Definitely not my typical color scheme, but a colleague of mine reminded me how cute it would be with my YRU white platform sneakers. Can’t wait to see it in person!
Now these are the ones I am most excited about! My first thought went directly to the neon biker shorts from American Apparel and how cute those are paired with a bigger tee. Thinking I can do the same with these. My work uniform has been adjusted while I’m pregnant and I wear long leggings at work. I think these will be the first thing I change into when I get home from work on a daily basis though!
I am not made for heat so I am hoping that being pregnant during the summer isn’t too difficult. If anything it gives me a full year to get my beach body back, right? LOL as if that’s going to be my priority.